Ground Rules to “Keep it Friendly” in Mediation | North Oaks, MN
1. We shall take turns speaking and not interrupt each other.
2. We shall first names when referring to people – not “he” or “she.”
3. We shall not blame, attack, or engage in put-downs. We will ask questions of each other for the purposes of gaining clarity and understanding only.
4. We shall stay away from establishing hard positions. We will express ourselves in terms of our
personal needs and interests and the outcomes we wish to realize.
5. We will listen respectfully and sincerely try to understand the other person’s needs and interests.
6. We recognize that even if we do not agree with it, each of us is entitled to our own perspective.
7. We will not dwell on things that did not work in the past, but instead will focus on the future we
would like create.
8. We shall make a conscious, sincere effort to refrain from unproductive arguing, venting, or
narration, and agree at all times to use our time in mediation to work toward what we perceive to be
our fairest and most constructive agreement possible.
9. While in mediation, we will refrain from pre-emptive maneuvers and adversarial legal proceedings (except in the case of an emergency necessitating such action).
10. We will not punish or shame. We will focus on solving problems and building bridges.
11. We will avoid hyperbole that makes things bigger than reality.
12. We will avoid absolutes like always and never, especially “you always” or “you never”.
13. We will speak up if something is not working for us in mediation.
14. We will request a break or beverage when we need one.
15. We will make every effort to take good physical and emotional care of ourselves.
16. We will point out if we feel the mediator is not being impartial.
17. We will not try to convince the mediator of anything.
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