Benefits of Divorce Mediation
Mediation provides privacy not present in a classic divorce trial. Everyone going through this emotional journey deserves to have confidentiality when resolving such personal issues. Minnesota State Law declares that no one, not even the two parties, can use what is said in mediation against one another in court, and the mediator can never be called as a witness. What is said in mediation stays in mediation.
Encourages collaboration, not competition
The goal of mediation is creating an efficient and equitable solution to a divorce. Mediators lead parties to a collaborative solution to issues while remaining neutral and allowing the parties to make the agreements. The Mediation process promotes peaceful, respectful cooperation that benefits not only the immediate process, but also the future relationship.
Protects family relationships
Nothing good comes from an adversarial legal approach that further damages the relationship of those going through divorce. Mediation provides a way to create agreements rather than arguments. This process promotes a two-way conversation in order to reach mutual resolution. Often couples learn in mediation to communicate with each other in a business-like and respectful way that benefits them and their families for years to come.
Reducing conflict benefits children
Children can adjust to having two loving homes, but they struggle when the two households are at war. It is the intensity and duration of their parents’ conflict — not the actual divorce — that creates suffering for the children. (Surviving the Breakup by Kelly and Wallerstein) Mediation provides a less emotionally damaging journey for the children, as well as for both parents. If parents are more collaborative and less combative, it gives the children a more hopeful outlook on what the future may bring. The mediation process is an excellent way to achieve a parenting plan that works for everyone.
Establishes a foundation for co-parenting partnership
A mediated agreement is created through cooperation and collaboration. The experience of both parties working together toward a mutual goal becomes a foundation upon which to build a healthy parenting partnership. As life unfolds, holding the same goals in mind for the sake of the children allows the parties to choose to walk a path toward a better future with everyone’s best interests in mind.
Focuses on the present and future, not the past
The past may be something painful for both parties to endure, but with mediation the past is past. It does no one any good to look back with regrets or anger. We move from survive to thrive by looking forward to a better and brighter future. By working together toward mutually agreed upon goals, mediation shifts the focus from what already happened to what is going to happen.
Strengthens commitment to agreements
When people take part in determining the agreements that create their future pathways, there is a much greater commitment to fulfilling the agreements. When we decide what we want to achieve, the commitment is greater than if it is simply that someone else wants us to achieve it. Experience shows that mediated agreements are more likely to be followed, thus avoiding further problems down the road.
Controls costs, financial and emotional, of the divorce process
Best of all, mediation controls expenses both emotionally and financially. A litigated divorce often runs two to ten times the cost of a mediated divorce. This leaves more money for the parties to start over and begin a new life.
Emotionally, mediation guards the parties from further damaging attacks and even creates the possibility of taking some steps together in the healing process. Divorce takes a toll on whomever it falls, mediation is here to help.